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SEXIST POSITION OF KING COUNTY EXECUTIVE RON SIMMS
10/1/2007 2:42:19 PM

Ron Sims, the executive for King County, Washington, touted his advocacy to end Domestic Violence, joining the focus on DV because of October being the month to focus on DV. See this portion of his web page.

However, Mr. Sims is like most elected officials: no acknoweledgement that men are also victims.

  • There is no acknowledgement that men are victims
  • There is no acknowledgement that women are perpetrators
  • There is no encouragement that discussion of DV should include all people, regardless of gender
  • There is no encouragement to develop resources for DV victims regardless of gender
SEXIST POSITION OF WASHINGTON STATE'S ATTORNEY GENERAL
9/15/2007 1:23:35 AM

Rob McKenna, Washington State's Attorney General, has displayed his sexist view of domestic violence: men are the perpetrators and never the victims; women are never the perpetrators and the only victims. Text on his domestic violence web page (captured 2007-09-15) makes this clear:

McKenna's commitment to domestic violence issues reaches back to his time on the King County Council, where he led the council in supporting a pledge created by the Seattle-based Men's Network Against Domestic Violence, urging men to work on ending the cycle of domestic violence. The goal of the Men's Network Against Domestic Violence is to encourage men who are not abusers to start speaking out about the cycle of abuse and the role men have in creating attitudes that can cause violence against women to occur. The pledge can be downloaded from http://www.menagainstdv.org/pledge/.
On McKenna's DV web page:
  • There is no acknowledgement that men are victims
  • There is no acknowledgement that women are perpetrators
  • There is no encouragement that women who are not abusers to start speaking out about the cycle of abuse and the role women have in creating attitudes that cause violence against men
  • There is no encouragement to develop resources for DV victims regardless of gender
When law enforcement leaders display a sexist position like that of Mr. McKenna we can fairly conclude that men who are victims will never receive the same quality of service as female victims. We can also fairly conclude that men are at a greater risk of being arrested if they report themselves as a victim, because there is a built-in bias that men are always the perpetrators, as described in the Miami Beach Patrol incident discussed below. This bias from the top discourages men from coming forward, talking to others, and seeking help. This in turn keeps men the hidden victims and the money flowing to groups who service only women. By keeping a portion of domestic violence hidden, law enforcement leaders like McKenna foster cultural conditions in which the cycle of violence will continue against the hidden victims.

KUOW: UW'S MOUTHPIECE OF BIAS
4/10/2007 10:07

KUOW is the University of Washington's FM radio station that has a very large regional coverage area -- nearly all of Western Washington and into Canada. In the wake of the tragic death of Rebecca Griego the station decided to air a program the morning of April 11, 2007 about domestic violence. In the promotional announcement the night before to hype the program, the claim was made that domestic violence is more common than it appears; then, some statistics about female victims were put forth. Not one mention about both genders being victims. So, yes, the claim that domestic violence is more common than it appears is certainly true, especially when a major institution ignores that males are also victims. Think twice, or three times, before sending KUOW money.

UW SCHOOL OF SOCIAL WORK: PERPETUATING MYTH
2006/08/18 08:27

The University of Washington School of Social Work recently launched "Men's Domestic Abuse Check-Up", found at www.MensCheckup.org. No hint at all that men can also be victims, or that women can be perpetrators.

Helping to publicize the project's gender-biased approach to domestic violence are newspapers such as the Seattle Post-Intelligencer, which, of course, never posed the question of why only male abusers are invited to call.

To promote the program, the School of Social Work is placing ads in a few places, including King County (Seattle) Metro busses and Seattle's alternative newspaper The Stranger. The School of Social Work is also running radio ads.

The project purports anonymity, but offers a toll-free number. Toll-free numbers capture phone numbers, even from phones with caller-ID blocking turned on.

That the School of Social Work has a clear view that domestic violence is an affliction found only in men is reflected in nearly every aspect of this project, such as:

  • The news release only mentions male perpetrators and female victims
  • The background document only cites female victims and makes the purpose clear: "This new approach is designed to aid the concerned man in taking stock of his behavior and thinking through his options"; women who are violent apparently should not be concerned.
  • The University of Washington purchased the domain MensCheckup.org, but not WomensCheckup.org

One technique of abuse and control is denying a person's reality. By adopting and publicizing a gender-biased solution to domestic violence, major institutions like the University of Washington and major departments like the School of Social Work pepetuate the societal myth that only women are victims of domestic violence -- in essence practicing a massive social denial.

The following questions were sent to the UW News Service, the UW President, Dean Edwina Uehara, and Professor Roger Roffman (who everyone pointed to as the project director). Roffman refuses to answer the questions in writing via email and won't consent to a recorded phone interview to insure accuracy:

  • What is the source of funding?
  • Why are women with the same violent history or potential not invited to call? Why does the program align itself with the mistaken notion that only men are perpetrators of DV?
  • How can the study claim, per the PI story, that a man can be anonymous when the phone number is automatically delivered to an 800 number via ANI (automatic number identification)?
  • Being that the 800 number will automatically capture the number from which the call originates, how can a man trust that the social workers (or whoever) on the other end will not pass 1) the content of the conversation and the 2) phone number to law enforcement?
  • Who will be talking with the men who call? Women or men?
Treating domestic violence as a male-only affliction is the same naive thinking as believing AIDS is a homosexual-only affliction.

BIAS ON THE BEACH
2006/08/14 20:24

I happened to see an episode on Miami Beach Patrol tonight. Police were called out to the beach because of an altercation between boy friend and girl friend. The boy friend told the cops that the woman had done the hitting. One of the investigating cops couldn't believe it, saying "Look at the size of that guy." The cops handcuffed the guy and were getting ready to haul him off when another beach goer showed up to tell the cops that he and his family had seen it all -- the woman initiated the violence and hit the guy 15 times while he was on the cell phone. Then, the cops took away the right person. This illustrates perfectly the way cops seldom believe the man -- and why men would be reluctant to call the cops in the first place even if a victim.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ISN'T ONE-SIDED
2006/06/28

Don Dutton, Professor of Psychology at the University of British Columbia and author of Rethinking Domestic Violence, challenges the existing view that domestic violence affects only women in his Candadian National Post article.

SEATTLE'S GROUP HEALTH COOPERATIVE: BASTION OF BIAS
2006/05/30

The Seattle PI's editorial of May 28, 2006 is just another organization buying into GHC's long-standing bias that women are the only victims of domestic violence. The PI editorial focused on the recent results of a DV study by GHC, which surveyed only women. The PI editorial doesn't mention men nor even raise the question of why men weren't included.

Since at least October 2002, GHC has been purchasing and distributing a brochure that portrays women as DV victims and men as DV perpetrators. Further, GHC installed brochure holders in the stalls of women's restrooms for this brochure. No such literature or brochure holders are found in the men's restrooms. In the fall of 2005 the GHC Board of Directors was asked by a long-term GHC subscriber to adopt non-sexist DV literature and non-sexist distribution of non-sexist DV literature. The Board declined. No surprise, then, that GHC had only surveyed women.

As long as GHC continues to perpetuate the myth that only men are perpetrators and that only women are victims, and as long as unthinking newspaper editorial boards help perpetuate this myth by not even raising the issue of why men weren't surveyed, there can be no evolvement in the discussion of DV -- a topic women rightly deserve the credit for in bringing the issue into the light of day.

FORMER SHERIFF, NOW CONGRESSMAN, SHOWS BIAS
2004/11/27

In the Fall of 2004, King County (Washington) Sheriff Dave Reichart ran for a Congressional seat in the House of Representatives (and won). One of this promotional TV ads was this:

Woman #1 talking and in vew: It's frightening

Woman #2 talking and in vew: You never recover from this.

Woman #3 talking and in vew: It's unforgivable.

Dave Reichart and in view: Domestic violence is a crime that violates every shred of human decency.

Female Narrator [as men prisoners shown walking through jail]: As sheriff , Dave Reichart didn't just talk about these offenders. He went after them. One day he nearly lost his life stopping one.

Dave Reichart and in view [then quick view of older woman, woman #3, pregnant woman and child]: As sheriff we've toughened our approach. In Congress, we'll toughen federal law to stop the violence. I'm Dave Reichart and I approve this message because talk alone never protected a wife, a mother, or a child.

In this commercial there is no mention or even a hint that men can be and are victims of domestic violence. It certainly appears from the commercial that only women and children are victims of domestic violence and that only women and children are worthy of protection. Further, the commercial only showed male perpetrators.

Any reasonable person would conclude from this commercial that Reichert sees only men as perpetrators and only women and children as victims worthy of protection.